I was working 12 hours a day and making only $43,000 a year with my business. I was in an amazing relationship that I couldn’t even be present for. I was focused on the wrong things and in many cases, serving the wrong clients.
I was way too smart to be living like this.
I was trying to do too much, but making almost no progress, even though I was working with some amazing coaches.
I tried throwing the little bit of money I had at the problem. And it wasn’t working. I wasn’t quite suicidal, but I was depressed as hell.
I was committed to having ALL the answers for my clients and consumed with proving myself to the world.
During one of my frequent breakdowns, I had a conversation with Shellie (to borrow a term from the super-brilliant Samantha Bennett, Shellie is my wife-ish person) and she helped me connect to the message for myself that I was carrying inside.
The message from my soul was clear, “Stop trying to be a genius and multiply the magic around you.”
A huge weight was lifted off my shoulders.
Instead of proving myself right, I recognized that my real job was to prove my clients right. The more I could help them see where they were right, the more magic started happening. My focus shifted to finding the awesomeness within them and magnifying it for their potential clients to see.
It didn’t have to be about me any more.
Of course, I’ve forgotten this 1087 times (approximately) over the last several years. Fortunately, I keep remembering it and coming back to it more frequently.
Every time I remember to look for what’s amazing in my clients and bring it out for the world to see, the world becomes a better place. The world is waiting for our brilliance to come out. People are looking for your sparks of inspiration.
And it’s our job to multiply the magic that is always around us. The more we help other bring their best forward, the more we serve.
One of the easiest ways for us to do this is by taking the time to first see the brilliance in people and then reflecting it back to them.
That’s why I selected the quote from Edith Wharton for today: “There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.”
I encourage doing both, but I’ve found it easy for me to get stuck too much in trying to ‘be the candle’ at times when it’s more appropriate to ‘be the mirror’.
Then there are those times of creative collaboration when the lines blur and you have no idea whether you’re the candle or the mirror. That’s when the fucking magic happens.
Learn how to create and surrender to those moments.